Dear Dr. H,
My boyfriend and I have been together for about five years. I don't have any sexual desire anymore and we currently have sex no more than three times a month. I know I love him and don't want to be with anyone else. What can I do?
Read on for Dr. Hilda Hutcherson's response.
A. While it's normal for your sex life to go through different phases when you're with someone for a long time (sometimes it's steamy and frequent, and sometimes it's less so), it is important to make it a priority in your relationship. There are things you can do to increase desire when your sex life isn't at its peak. One thing you can try is fantasy--one suggestion is for each of you to write a story about the best sex you had with each other. Thinking about a great past sexual experience could help you relive it. You can also visit an erotic shop--in person or online, to buy new gels, lubricants and sex toys that you can share. The bottom line is, novelty--doing something you haven't tried before--can really get a couple out of a sex rut.
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